Day 5 // Regrets

Read: John 4:1-42

I don’t know about you, but I have some regrets. I have regrets about the choices I made in my teenage years and early twenties. Let’s call them the sins of my youth. I have regrets about financial decisions I have made throughout my adult life. I have regrets about mistakes and omissions in my parenting. I have problems with some things I did and problems with some things I wish I had done.

What about you? Are you sorry about anything that has happened in your past?

The Samaritan woman was carrying a load of regret when she met Jesus. Jesus tries to reach out to her in kindness, and she throws one deflection after another His way. Finally, Jesus has to dig deep to get her attention.

He told her, “Go, call your husband and come back.”

“I have no husband,” she replied.

Jesus said to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband. The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.”

Hello. Five husbands. Talk about some trials. Does that mean five divorces? At this point, she is without friends (we know because she came to the well alone), and surely, broken in spirit.

This woman has been beaten up by life. Maybe this was all about her bad choices but at this point, that just doesn’t matter. She has had a hard life. Parched, she comes to that well in the heat of the day.

Jesus offers this broken woman living water. He offers Himself. Not a perfect life or the answer to every difficulty but a person to go to in those difficulties.

She deflects again by asking about the temple. Finally, she says she knows that the Messiah is coming. Jesus tells her,

I who speak to you am He.
— John 4:26

No need to look any farther to fill that desperate need for love. You have just found the unending source of love. I love you. Husbands and all.

Jesus had to go to Samaria because He had to run into this woman.

She runs to the townspeople and tells them that Jesus knew all about those five husbands. Then they all come to meet Jesus too.

This story is such good news. First, Jesus loves half-breeds like this Samaritan woman. You don’t have to be some religious expert or someone who knows every word of the Bible to follow Jesus. Secondly, Jesus loves sinners like this Samaritan woman. We can come to Him with our share of regret. What she was ashamed of, Jesus now uses to draw others to Himself. Our past can be redeemed for God’s purposes.

Whatever your regrets are today, whatever has left you parched, Jesus offers Himself. He is the source of living water. You can make the great exchange. Bring Him your sin and regret, and He will give you life.


In your Going Deeper Participant Guide, let’s look at Day 5 beginning on page 13. Complete Look at the Details and Personal Application sections. Then come back here and share your answer to the following discussion question in the comment section below. (You can find the comment section at the bottom of this message. Just scroll down and you’ll see the words “Post a Comment.” Click there and share your responses.)

Consider the interaction between Jesus and the Samaritan woman. "What are the implications for us as women, sinners, and people Jesus died for?"

I will be posting my responses in the comment section too, so I hope to see you there!

Thanks for going on this journey together! #undividedwomen