Terri Gauldin // Heirs

Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.
— Proverbs 22:6
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths.
— Proverbs 3:5-6

All I have ever wanted was for my children to know God and know He had a plan for their lives. ʻTrain themʼ sounded so textbook. So achievable. Trust. That was easy enough. And then the first one was born. Train and trust. Could my husband and I do this?

The baby, toddler and preschool years were precious times of Jesus Loves Me and bedtime prayers. And exhaustion. Train and trust. Then school age came with activities and opportunities to grow and learn to love on others. Hormonal changes, experiencing right and wrong, following rules, learning respect came next. The beginning of emotional independence hit. Train and trust. Then teenage years came with exerting independence, double the hormones, consequences, hard life lessons,and the thrill of watching young adults emerge. Train and trust.

For me, the teen years have been the most challenging in training and trusting. They no longer want to be trained! They want to go all out, all on their own. And I have difficulty trusting God’s plan. But when I read the rest of those two Scriptures - ”when he is old he will not depart from itʼ and ʻHe shall direct your paths” - it wraps around me like a warm blanket.

Much of the challenge has been my own. Fear of failing them. Not doing enough. Not setting the example. But my husband and I have sought to train according to God’s instruction. We have learned to trust when it didn't make sense. That was what we were called to do. Train them. Trust Him. For He will finish His work in my children that He began THROUGH me. Not BY me. Not FOR me. But for the glory of His kingdom.

I am still here. Training where l can and trusting God more than ever. No matter what, God’s grace is sufficient. He has assured me through His Word that He will direct my children’s path, and they will not depart from it. Their heads may deceive. Their road may be rocky, but their hearts have been given the truth from God’s Word and ways. Training and trusting.

  • Read Romans 8:28.
  • What do you find hard about trusting God as you train your children?
  • What are the benefits to trusting God with your children’s behavior and future?
  • What are the negatives to hanging onto them too tightly?
  • What are some practical ways you can trust God with raising your children and then letting them go?

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// Terri 

Terri has been married to Chris Gauldin for 20 years and mom to Anna, Alex, and Andrew. She was a pediatric nurse before becoming a homeschool mom 11 years ago. She enjoys serving the middle and high school students at Wiregrass Church.