Tami Stanford // Husbands

About ten years ago, I had to decide whether I was going to trust God to lead my family or fight for what I wanted. We had been married for seven years and had a two-year-old son at the time. We were living in Marietta, GA, and we had just finished remodeling our house. I had a great group of friends, and I was happy and content. The problem was my husband was under a great deal of stress at work. He was working 14 hour days, missing family time, and not sleeping. Needless to say, he wasn’t content or happy. We both knew something needed to change.

Sometimes God has to do something dramatic to get our attention. For us, it was a job loss. Not expected. Not prepared for. But one morning God gave me a promise. Wait on the Lord. Be strong and have courage. Trust Him and I would see His goodness. I wanted to fix the job situation. I wanted Neal to find a job in Atlanta. I wanted to stay where we were. But, Neal was ready to move back to Dothan.

I had a choice. I could trust God to lead our family through Neal, or I could put up a fight and try to get my way. I decided to trust. It wasn’t easy. I didn’t see God’s goodness right away. In fact, the next four years in Dothan were hard. But today I can look back and see a defining moment: the moment I chose to trust God and my husband. The moment I chose to submit to his leadership. I am so grateful for the work God has done in my husband, in me, and in our marriage. I do not regret waiting on the Lord. I do not regret letting Neal lead our family. I am content and happy once again. Not because of where I live or what I have, but because I have seen God’s goodness.

  • Read the following verses in your Bible or hover over each verse for quick reference: Proverbs 3:5-6 and Psalm 37:7.
  • Is there an area in your life where you need to trust God to lead through your husband?
  • If you are not married, is there an area of your life where you need to trust that God is leading you through His Holy Spirit?
  • What hinders us from submitting ourselves to our husbands, and ultimately to God?

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// Tami

Tami was born and raised in Dothan, AL. She has been married to Neal Stanford for 16 years. They have 2 wonderful children. Their son Judson is 11, and their daughter Mary Grace is 7. They are a homeschool family and have been for 5 years. Tami and Neal are a part of Ridgecrest Christian School. They are members at Wiregrass church, where Tami serves on Sunday mornings in the toddler room.