Lori Smith // Husbands

The overarching theme God has been teaching me over the past eight years is that the solution to fear is trusting God. He is faithful, good, and loving.

For the first 17 years of my marriage, I had an irrational fear that my husband would leave me—irrational because he was a devoted, godly husband who never gave me cause to doubt. We had a good marriage, but that fear niggled in the back of my mind always and became rather domineering at times. Then, for about two years, due to selfishness on both of our parts, we had very real struggles. Struggles that caused me to think that the years of fear were finally going to materialize. He was considering divorcing me. As I cried out to God, I sensed Him asking me, “Then what?” The dialogue went something like this:

Me: God, I think he’s about to divorce me.

God: If he does, then what?

Me: I guess I’ll have to go back to work and put the kids back in school.

God: Then what?

Me: I know You’d provide for us, but I’d be alone.

God: Then what?

Me: I won’t be alone because You’ve promised me that You’ll never leave me or forsake me. You will meet every one of my needs—physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

God: That’s what I have promised. Now walk in that.

After that conversation, I had peace. Not peace that I would never be alone, but peace that if I were, He would carry me, and that His grace would be sufficient for every situation I would face. The solution to fear is trusting God’s faithfulness. He is good and loving, and He will be with you no matter what.

In His great mercy, God did restore our marriage, but four years later, Todd did leave me when he died in a boating accident. I ran to the Word for strength. That first night, God tenderly led me to Isaiah 43:1-3 and reminded me that even though Todd was gone, that He would never leave me, that at the end of the trail of “then what’s?” was the great I Am that would sustain my children and me in every way. And He has. His grace is not merely sufficient; it is overabundant. He has faithfully carried me, encouraged me, sustained me, and given me the joy to walk the path where He has placed me.

Let go of your fear, and trust God’s faithfulness. He is good and loving and will see you through whatever you face!

  • Read Isaiah 41:10Isaiah 43:1-3, and 2 Corinthians 12:9.
  • What fear do you need to stop giving in to?
  • How can trusting God’s faithfulness starve your fear?
  • Where do you need to believe God will see you through your circumstances no matter what?

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// Lori

Lori stays busy with her boys’ Boy Scout troop, homeschooling them (ages 15 & 13), and serving on the production team at Watermark Church, as well as on the board of directors for Wiregrass Kings. She has graduated two girls (ages 21 & 18). She and Todd were married 22 years.