I was about to give the finger-wagging speech of the century, and this small voice inside my head said the beginning part of Proverbs 29:11. “A fool gives full vent to his anger,” I heard the verse in my head, and you know what I did? I made the conscious choice to open the vent. Out it came for about thirty minutes. I fussed and fumed while my child shut down. When it was over the only thing my child said was, “You cussed at me!” I thought it was the speech of the century. I thought I could have convinced the President to give up the White House. But no, all that was remembered seemed to be my tone and my language.
AWESOME JOB! Somebody get this Mom a medal. I directly disobeyed Scripture, and out came the angry, frustrated words I regret to this day. It would take more than this short space to tell you about all the apologizing I had to do over the years for this short thirty minutes. I would take it back. Every. Angry. Second.
I have learned a lot over the years since this moment, but I am still learning. Parenting is a daily dependence on God to guide your every word. Some are to be spoken, some are not. Some are to be prayed over, waiting on God’s perfect timing to share.
I would also encourage you to consider the best approach to communicate with your child. Ask God to give you keen insight into how to reach each one of your children individually based on their personality.
But for the sake of your relationship with that child you love so dearly, whatever you do, do not open the vent!
- Read James 1:19-20 and James 3:10 NIV.
- What can you do to be a better listener?
- What should you do the next time you want to give vent to your anger?
- Do you struggle with holding your tongue with your children?
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