Wiregrass Hope Group's Christian counselors have written these posts on anxiety based on their own experiences and the book Calm My Anxious Heart by Linda Dillow. Our hope is for you to live free from anxiety.
Worry is almost a universal problem. As women, there are so many things to worry about.
I have a 19-year-old daughter and an almost 17-year-old daughter. Before my children hit high school, I remember thinking, “If I can just get them to 18, we will be home free.” I know if you have adult children then you are chuckling to yourself. But, one day I woke up to the reality that we will always be tempted to worry about our children. Once they get married, we will worry that they stay married. Once they have children, we will worry about their parenting and our grandchildren. The opportunities to worry will never end. Worry will always be an opportunity presented to us.
Have any of these questions ever haunted you: Will I ever get married? Will I be able to have a child or another child? Will my marriage make it though this storm? Will my mother be healed? Will my child heal from this problem? Will I make friends in this new town? Women are so relationally driven that the relationships and the people we care about the most can become our greatest source of worry.
But worry doesn’t stop there. We can worry about paying the bills, paying for college, getting a job, keeping a job, where to go to church, and how to get through our long to-do list.
Worry strangles us, and we need to stop. But how?
God has many prescriptions for worry. He knows it will be a life long temptation for us. Matthew 6 is one of my favorite passages on worry. Read the passage below and look for God’s prescriptions for worry.
Matthew 6:25-34 reads, “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life? “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
One prescription is to look at the birds and the flowers. This passage teaches us that God provides for birds, so He will provide for His children. God also provides beautifully for flowers that do not labor or spin. We are called to work, but we are to work without worrying about the outcome.
Another prescription is to seek God’s kingdom in every area of our lives. This means we do life God’s way, and we trust that He will provide for us in His time and His way.
Finally, and maybe most helpful to me, we are told not to worry about tomorrow. Calm My Anxious Heart on page 128 says this, “Women sometimes confuse anxiety and depression. According to Minirth and Meier, anxiety is linked more to the future, while depression is linked to the past. Depression is the past superimposed on the present, and anxiety is the future superimposed on the present.”
Here is what helps me with anxiety. I have felt God ask my soul on many occasions, “Amy, can you do today?” My answer is always yes and the implication is to leave the future in His hands.
Plan and work today but leave the future to God. Pour out your heart and your worries to God. Leave them in His hands and take on the day He has given you.
If we choose to lay our burdens before God, then we will not have to bring them into our day. I know in my life worrying squeezes the life and joy out of everything. Let’s be women who are responsible with the day God has given us and leave our tomorrows with Him.
Prayer: Place what is worrying you before God and imagine Him picking up those worries for you.
Further Study: Read Chapter 8 of Calm My Anxious Heart.
Comment: What helps you with worry?
Small Group Discussion: Questions 3, 4, and 8 of Week 8 in the back of Calm My Anxious Heart.
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